Rethinking feminism: Should men’s rights be part of the equality agenda?

By Raqif Makhdoomi 

“Be a man. Men don’t cry. Face it like a man.” Phrases like these are often heard in families, workplaces, and public life. While they may appear harmless, they reflect deep-seated expectations that restrict men from expressing vulnerability or seeking emotional support. Many men internalise their problems rather than speak openly, fearing ridicule or judgement. In recent times, an increasing number of voices argue that men are being socially cornered and expected to remain silent simply because they are men.

Feminism originally emerged as a movement for equality, intended to secure fair opportunities and rights for women and to remove structural discrimination. However, some critics argue that contemporary public discourse has drifted from the principle of equality into confrontation and generalisation. They point out that in certain cases, men have been portrayed negatively as a category, which they believe is neither constructive nor aligned with the spirit of equality. 

For example, campaigns such as #MeToo played an important role in enabling survivors to speak about abuse and exploitation, but critics highlight that false allegations—though statistically fewer—can cause irreversible reputational and emotional damage when they occur. In several instances, men acquitted after such claims receive no public apology or restoration of dignity.

Concerns have also been raised regarding social norms that appear inconsistent. A woman shouting at a man may at times be publicly celebrated as empowerment, while a man raising his voice is often condemned as abusive or oppressive. Similarly, physical aggression by women can be dismissed lightly, whereas men are harshly judged for the same behaviour. These double standards fuel resentment and do not contribute to harmonious gender relations.

A frequently discussed issue in India involves misuse of certain legal provisions. The Supreme Court of India has expressed concern about the misuse of Section 498A of the IPC (criminalising cruelty in marriage), observing that the law is sometimes used to settle personal scores rather than protect genuine victims. According to NCRB data, thousands of cases have been found to be false or unsubstantiated, raising the need for balanced reforms that protect both women and men.

Another serious concern is the rate of male suicides. Although men are often perceived as emotionally stronger, data from the National Crime Records Bureau shows that men constitute a significantly higher percentage of suicide victims—about 72% in 2021 and 70% in 2020. Many mental-health professionals argue that rigid expectations of masculinity and the stigma around seeking help contribute to this imbalance.

There are also social expectations placed primarily on men—such as financial responsibility, employment prerequisites for marriage, and family pressure—which rarely form part of public discourse. While legitimate and harmful discrimination against women continues to exist and needs consistent attention, ignoring the emotional and psychological needs of men can also damage societal well-being. Issues like dowry, domestic violence, gender bias at work, and access to public spaces affect both genders and need thoughtful solutions rather than hostility.

Relationships, too, are not free from dual blame. Infidelity, conflicts, and failures cannot be attributed to one gender alone. Any discussion of equality must recognise responsibility on both sides.

A society grounded in fairness must create space for every individual to speak without fear. Advocating for men’s issues should not be interpreted as opposition to women’s rights, just as supporting women’s equality should not imply belittling men. True equality lies in ensuring dignity and justice for everyone.

Men, like women, have emotions, vulnerabilities, and human needs. Hearing and acknowledging their struggles is essential. Constructive dialogue, not competition between genders, is the path to genuine social progress.

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Raqif Makhdoomi is a law student and rights activist