French writer Simone de Beauvoir holds the most significant place in feminist discourse. Her ideas concerning women have been widely discussed, though this discussion has largely been limited to her thoughts related to a young woman's body and mind. However, Simone also attempted to deeply understand and analyze the issue of motherhood. She viewed motherhood not only as a biological process but also analyzed it in social, psychological, and existential contexts.
Her widely acclaimed book, "The Second Sex," clearly demonstrates that the status of women worldwide has been almost uniform. Simone is not only an observer of women's circumstances but, as a woman herself, has also been a participant in those experiences. Its Hindi translation, titled "Stree: Upekshita" (Woman: The Neglected), was done by Prabha Khetan. The book has two volumes—the first discusses the biological, historical, and social aspects of women, while the second analyzes the condition of modern women in detail. It considers topics such as marriage, motherhood, social life, old age, and women's destiny. Simone considered motherhood to be the root cause of women's dependence. She argued that the capacity for reproduction existed in women but not in men, and this very characteristic was at the root of women's subjugation.
From childhood, girls are taught that motherhood is their ultimate duty. Society considers a woman's life meaningful only when she accepts motherhood. Due to this tradition, a woman's own body and desires become secondary. The experience of pregnancy varies for every woman—some accept it with pride and joy, while for others, it becomes a source of fear and dilemma. Some women find happiness in repeated pregnancies, while others consider it a burden.
The relationship between a mother and child is complex. A mother sometimes sees her child as her property, and at other times experiences deep love and responsibility towards them. Motherhood also creates contradictions in a woman's life—she remains dedicated to protecting her child, but sometimes that very child can become a burden. Women have different attitudes towards their sons and daughters. A son is often seen as a symbol of masculinity, while a mother's attitude towards her daughter is mixed—sometimes she sees her reflection in her, and at other times she tries to discipline her.
According to Simone, the development of a woman's personality is often hindered by motherhood. She is forced to sacrifice her own dreams, aspirations, and freedom. As a mother, the expectations society places on her prevent her from developing as a completely independent individual. The experience of motherhood oscillates between self-absorption and self-sacrifice.
Society has accepted motherhood as a woman's natural destiny, and for this reason, women's other potential contributions are often overlooked. Women who choose to forgo motherhood face harsh criticism. Simone points out that motherhood has been imposed on women as a social obligation, preventing them from expressing themselves freely. This limits their existence.
Much of a mother is drained in raising children. Sometimes, women become emotionally dry due to repeated pregnancies. According to Simone, motherhood is a complex mixture—it is a combination of self-absorption, altruism, reality, and pretense. Referring to a woman's social status, Simone states that it is very difficult for a woman to manage household chores, childbirth, and simultaneously remain attractive. Many women become indifferent to motherhood in this struggle.
Motherhood is not just a biological process; it also has social and psychological impacts. Women are asked to become a symbol of sacrifice to be a good mother. They are forced to give up their health, career, and personal desires. This also affects their mental health, as society expects them to be an ideal mother.
Upon reaching old age, even when a woman begins to lose the warmth of motherhood, she remains filled with the desire to recreate life. Many women experience emptiness in old age because their entire lives have been spent in caring for and raising children. When children grow up and become independent, mothers have to rediscover their identity.
Simone's analysis touches on every aspect of motherhood—it not only affects a woman's body and mind but also influences her existence and the concept of freedom. It is worth considering whether motherhood is truly the essence of a woman's existence, or if it is a social construct that can be changed over time.
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Urmila Chauhan is pursuing her PhD from Assam University
Urmila Chauhan is pursuing her PhD from Assam University
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