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Motherhood, memory, and dissent in Arundhati Roy’s memoir

By Harsh Thakor* 
Mother Mary Comes to Me is Arundhati Roy’s deeply personal exploration of family, memory, and social transformation. Presented as a memoir, it weaves together the story of her relationship with her mother, Mary Roy, and the larger political and cultural forces that shaped her life and writings. The prose is direct and accessible, balancing tenderness with sharp reflection.
The narrative traces Roy’s life from childhood through her evolution into a writer and activist, highlighting how relationships, solitude, and political engagements defined her journey. The book portrays womanhood as something both intimate and socially contested, underlining the contradictions between personal affection and the broader struggles for dignity and equality.
Mary Roy, a Christian woman from Kerala, stands at the center of this memoir. She left an alcoholic husband with two young children and built an independent life in defiance of both family and community expectations. Her legal battle against the Travancore Christian Succession Act became a landmark case, securing inheritance rights for Christian women. She also established a respected school, leaving behind legacies of education and reform. Yet, her relationship with her daughter was marked by tension and conflict, shaping Arundhati’s rebellion and creative independence.
Roy’s recollections portray her mother as a complex figure: a source of strength and inspiration, but also of struggle. She taught her daughter freedom and self-expression, while simultaneously resisting the outcomes of that freedom. This paradox lies at the heart of the memoir, underscoring the imbalance of power in parent–child relationships.
The book also situates Roy’s personal history within India’s political context. Chapters such as Mobile Republic, More Trouble With the Law, Jailbird, and Walking with Comrades recount her encounters with state power, her critique of Hindutva politics, and her solidarity with Kashmiris and Maoist insurgents. These sections highlight her longstanding dissent against authoritarianism, religious nationalism, and large-scale development projects such as the Sardar Sarovar Dam.
At the same time, the memoir reflects the broader transformations of the late 20th century: the rise of globalisation, shifting ideologies, and the tension between liberalism and authoritarian nationalism. Against this backdrop, the reappearance of Mary Roy in her daughter’s later life is depicted as both supportive and intrusive, adding another layer of ambivalence to their relationship.
Ultimately, Mother Mary Comes to Me is not only a tribute to Mary Roy but also an inquiry into love, rebellion, and the costs of freedom. It shows how personal histories intertwine with political upheavals, and how unresolved contradictions between mother and daughter shaped the writer who would go on to challenge the state and society.
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*Freelance journalist

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